Thursday, April 02, 2009

"Stewy"


So tonight, a friend said he was going to start calling me "stewy". When I asked why, he said it is because I keep things in and do not get them off my chest. He is right. So my first post for April's growing (UP) blog... I am realizing I do "stew" over things and I am going to make an effort to put a stop to that.



Question is.... HOW?



Any suggestions?



Most of the time that I "stew" about things is because:

1) I am analyzing if I am over reacting and being too emotional

2) I am too upset to discuss it and need to rationalize it though my thought process aka... think logically

3) I do not want to hurt the other person

4) I would be opening myself up and becoming vulnerable and of course I do not want to get hurt.



I think this is something over the years I have grown to know or understand about myself. I think it's ok to "stew" about things for awhile but I do need to get certain things out on the table. I haven't figured out how to do that yet... but when I do, I'll let you know! It's a growing process... right?


2 comments:

beckyjomama said...

Journal ... a journal is a safe place to vent and get things off your chest. Plus, it is nice to look back sometimes and see how it all worked out.

Call it a diary or call it a prayer journal (that's what I do - I vent to God and let Him shoulder the weight - he WANTS to carry your load!). I know it helped Paula get through stuff and stay up, and I KNOW it helps me too!

XOXOXOXOXOX

angiedunn said...

i'm stewy number two. i completely understand this!

love ya jenn!